Let’s open our therapy session in response to the mental abuse of Chuck Hagel’s speech at your commencement and for the humiliation that is dumped on you by your so-called leaders with a gut-check question: How do you feel when you look at Chuck Hagel’s face? What do you see in his eyes? Does he inspire you with confidence? Would you want to follow him into battle? Learn to trust your gut about people, it will serve you well.

When I first saw Chuck Hagel’s face at his confirmation hearing, I didn’t know who he was, but I got a sick feeling in my stomach just watching his hang-dog shiftiness. He seemed insincere. I thought, “This guy is going to be the Secretary of Defense? OMG, America is in trouble.”

There are two basic texts for leftwing commencement speeches. One stirs up hate against men like you, and the other slyly urges you to hate yourself. The former was what the fat-cat feticidal Nancy Pelosi followed when she urged the dupes at UC Berkeley to be “disrupters.” “Let’s you and him fight,” always pitting the American people against each other, is a ploy to keep the power in the hands of people like Nancy Pelosi. And for your commencement, Mr. Hagel gave you the blame-and-shame sexuality dogma you have been subjected to all your life. Your generation was terrorized from the time you were toddlers with the swill that the earth is burning up. But as a male, you were singled out for special blame and shame. In the progressive belief system, a selective original sin attaches only to heterosexual males. Shamed for being masculine, threatened with drugging for being active, called racist, homophobic, and blah blah for unreservedly loving America as she is today.

Why did Hagel harangue you about sexual abuse when your graduation should have been a day of unalloyed pride? Obama and Hagel can never grant you or your family even one day of feeling good about America or yourself.

Today, mental land mines are being planted in your life by your own leaders. Be careful where you tread because mental suffering is worse than physical suffering. Inflicting mental confusion is the most powerful tool for weakening the military. It is important for you to be honest with yourself about who “they” are. You are a man and a naval warrior and you have to face the truth about your leaders so you can act with wisdom and caution as your career unfolds. (And BTW, don’t be modest about your ambition. Modesty is the enemy of humility. God has given you this game to play -- so play to win!)

Obama never loved America. He was steeped in hating the American way of life from birth. I don’t think he had any important ambition for his life when he was a kid. Without a father, religion, or moral foundation he hung with the druggies and gang bangers as such boys do. He started taking himself seriously when he hit the elite universities and noticed his butt was being kissed all the time -- and that he liked it. Just as you trained at the Naval Academy, Obama trained in a worldview that militarism is obsolete, and that the American military is especially evil. They don’t talk about it openly as they used to, but elite academics still believe that military service is a form of mental illness, a psychosexual maladjustment that anyone who learns how to handle weapons is pathologically aggressive. Their psychological defense mechanisms are built within a granite fortress of rationalized ingratitude for America. Obama never looks demoralized because he has no moral foundation of gratitude for America.

But Secretary Hagel is different. He did have faith in America once and believed in the military. Why he lost that faith I don’t know. Maybe he recognized which side the bread is buttered on. But he seems to have lost that love for America. Even God has difficulty forgiving hypocrisy. Sin can be repented and forgiven, but hypocrisy never repents. I don’t blame Obama or Hagel for their post-nationalism. I blame them for their hypocrisy. They are free Americans. They have the right to their beliefs and to act according to conscience. But those rights do not come from the UN. If Obama or Hagel worked for Amnesty International or Doctors Without Borders… cool. But Commander in Chief and Secretary of Defense? That’s hypocrisy.

Every American is free to hope, to imagine, to work for a world without war. We all can dream of that world that no one has ever seen, yet somehow believe will arrive someday. To give up that dream of a better humanity without the cruel and unreasonable enterprise of war would surely be our spiritual death. I hope I am wrong, but I don’t believe Obama and Hagel are hastening the arrival of that day by unilaterally weakening America.

You need three kinds of faith as you go forward: faith in God, faith in America, and faith in yourself. The truth never weakens those forms of faith. The truth about God, America, and yourself always uplifts your heart and fortifies your spirit. If you feel shamed by a so-called leader, that is not the truth about who you are, it is an unhealthy mental subjugation. Even when you need to accept correction, if the admonition is in the service of truth, it might not feel good, but it will fortify your courage. As far as this perpetual peroration about sexual abuse, you don’t deserve it. You never sexually assaulted anyone, you never will nor will the overwhelming majority of your fellow midshipmen. Just as you shouldn’t be blamed for taking money that someone else stole, you shouldn’t be blamed for someone else’s sexual misconduct. This constant chastisement aims to manipulate the way you feel about yourself and to prevent you from holding our “leaders” responsible for their policies. Homosexual abuse is increasing in the military because of their policies. It has nothing to do with you.

Progressive sexuality dogma weakens all three forms of your faith. It goes against your faith in God and perpetrates a hoax that America is intolerant. It undermines your faith in yourself. And if you challenge the “new normal,” well there must be something wrong with you.

Mental abuse is not a relationship problem, it is the sole responsibility of the abuser. You can’t choose your leaders, but you can choose whether or not to trust them. Anyone who undermines your faith in yourself is not trustworthy. Let’s close our session with a quote attributed to the naval hero Oliver Hazard Perry, updated for these psychological times: “I have seen the enemy, and he is not my true self.”