I believe that a president's singular agendum should be the betterment of the entire nation, not just various segments.  Obama's agenda on gay issues is not evolving; it's evolved.  Other than pop culture curiosity, I don't think most conservatives care about Obama's sexual past, present, or future.  But we do care when the gay agenda supersedes the human agenda.

I discuss my book The BIG Black Lie my discovery of "gay," which was fairly benign.  I was around 12 years old, and my grandfather had stopped to gas up before we left Dallas.  As my grandfather pumped gas, I saw what I thought to be, at the time, "the prettiest man I had ever seen."  He was very well-dressed, but noticeably different from what I had been raised to think of as a man.  He was perfectly dressed in a tan jumpsuit, and he had a beret to match.  I remember he carried a matching clutch that looped around his neck and was tucked just below his armpit.

As a kid from the country, I had never seen such style in my life.  I had to know what I was seeing, so I whispered for my grandmother to look at the man as he walked by.  My grandmother took a stealthy glance, then whispered to me, "He's funny."

I had no idea what "funny" meant, but would learn over time. Until further revelations, I just knew that I wasn't "funny."

Over time, I altered my perception of what a man is.  I would further learn of all the variations in how people form that make the idea of gender confusing at times.  I developed compassion for people in these areas, and learned to respect the idea that the human body is a complicated creation, which the mind can complicate to unfathomable degrees.

Understanding that everybody doesn't think as I do or act as I do, I learned not to moralize on the conditions of others, to just let them be.  I recognized that these "different" people I described were of all races, ethnicities, creeds, and so on.

As a youth, I thought it was mainly white people who are gay.  To be gay in the black culture was almost unheard of, or so I was conditioned.  Prior to my exposure to "pretty man," I had only heard of gays anecdotally, and I do recall having certain feelings or suspicions about some males and females I had met.  I remember that blacks were simply not supposed to be gay, and particularly not black boys.  We were to be tough.  Our role was to love women and lots of them.

In early adulthood, I recognized a very different world from what black culture had taught me.  Blacks were just as gay as whites, whites were just as poor as blacks, and so on.  I learned that these nice neat boxes that the world kept trying to put people in just didn't fit.

As I traveled, I found that there were all these same "different" people all over the world.  I learned that transsexuals were treated much the same almost everywhere I went.  Cross-dressers were gawked at almost universally.  Being gay was discouraged, to say the least.  I got it.

In my travels I learned that all these people were part of the human condition.  We can argue the nature-nurture theory; nevertheless, I assure you that I know it to be a bit of both.

I learned that you can't legislate people in issues such as this, which is what my problem with Obama is.  Obama wants to carve out rules that won't make it better for the LGBT, but will have quite the opposite impact.  All the rules that were carved out for blacks essentially remove black people from being part of the human race.  The best thing that the LGBT have is their humanity, not some conforming box.

Without creating books like "Billy has two black parents," black people managed to overcome all the adversity of slavery and the lack of civil rights.  The understanding of black culture didn't come from books; it came from people realizing the contribution that blacks have made and seeing it with their own eyes.  Who knows if some of history's most famous blacks were gay or wished they were another gender?  If you told me that George Washington Carver had dressed in women's clothes, that would not diminish his accomplishments to the world in the least.  Nor do Carver's accomplishments have more impact on America because he was black.  Peanut butter is delicious, regardless of Carver's sexuality, ethnicity, and any other proclivities he may have had.

You would think that we would have learned something by now about how to deal with people, and government leaders would lead by example, and not attempt to legislate thought.  Despite what people may believe, Civil Rights laws are not the reason Obama is president.  Obama is president because people in America long ago abandoned focusing on color -- save the racists who voted for Obama strictly because he is black.  For the most part, the people who voted for Obama did so because they felt he was going to be a transformational figure in American politics, not gay politics or black politics.

There has been a lot of money spent on removing people from the human race and putting them in special boxes.  Obama wants to do the same for the LGBT, because of his life experiences and his evolution.  Seventeen trillion dollars has been spent on the evolution of "helping blacks," and I don't see a lot of progress at the Main Street level.  How much money is America willing spend on the LGBT agenda?  How many more manuals and training sessions do we need for Americans to treat people as humans?

For the most part, Americans interact with people based on our needs and their performance.  I choose my friends based on common core values, without moralizing about those whose values don't necessarily agree with mine.  I don't have to have gay friends in order to not be homophobic.  I don't need white friends to prove I'm not racist.

All men are created equal.  It's time for Obama to stop with the politicizing various agendas, and focus on the human agenda, the American agenda.

-Kevin Jackson - The Black Sphere, LLC